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About the Episode
Sarah talks with Aundi Kolber (therapist and author of Try Softer™ and Strong Like Water) about the interplay between authenticity and attachment. They talk about how our sense of belonging and ability to connect are affected when we carry unrepaired relational wounds. Aundi also offers some hard-earned wisdom on how we can take small steps toward healing while still honoring the experiences that have brought us where we are.
Episode Notes
“People have two needs: attachment and authenticity. When authenticity threatens attachment, attachment will trump authenticity.” –Dr. Gabor Maté
The window of tolerance
Three types of attachment: secure, avoidant, and anxious
Psychology Today (Aundi’s recommended resource for finding a licensed practitioner, ideally with a trauma-informed lens and who may be familiar with EMDR and attachment theory)
Book Resources (from Aundi):
Allan Schore (rupture & repair)
Connect with Aundi
Website: AundiKolber.com
Instagram: Aundi Kolber
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The Human Together podcast is hosted by Sarah E. Westfall and is produced and edited by Ben Westfall. The theme music is “Sit with Me,” written and performed by Sarah Scharbrough.
S2, E4: Authenticity & Attachment with Aundi Kolber